I am still keeping plenty busy with my sexuality and somatic studies, a personal trainer, yoga classes and more. However this year I will be doing much less traveling which leaves me at home with much more time to relax and to play with you! I’ve made slight adjustments to my rates to reflect my increased availability. I hope to adore you soon!
With Love,
and wishes for your happiness, health and prosperity in the year ahead,
Sola
It seemed to take forever to arrive this year, and now we’re near the end – bright beautiful days, clear nights, simple summer dresses and tank tops, a thin film of salty sweat drying in the breeze… make sure to enjoy it while you still can!
I’ve been busy with a few travels, my somatic psychotherapy studies, working towards my Clinical Sexology certificate, deepening my shamanic experiences, coordinating minor repairs and yard work at the Sanctuaries, and taking extra walks through the arboretum with my doggie friend. How is it that life can be so busy when there is always much more that I’d like to do? I’m reassured that there is no time for boredom!
July found me down in Vegas for the Desiree Alliance and September finds me heading off to Burning Man for the first time in five years. My apologies that my travels are making it difficult to keep up with the blog, know I’m loving life and would love to see you when I am around! Please make sure to check my web calendar for more information and dates to be aware of, I updated it through the end of the year.
With Love and Bright Blessings!
Something stirred within me this morning, prompting me to find this piece that I’d posted on a discussion board in 2004. I hope you enjoy my retro-writing.
Subtitle: Good providers do not make good relationships…
A heartfelt Thank You for walking into my life – in all of your forms and guises. Stretching boundaries, learning, exploring, loving, healing… You allow me to be me as I am, as I want to be. You honor me in allowing me to witness and experience you, with your dreams and desires, your pains and your fears. Stripped. Of all worldly associations, Naked. Those eyes are windows and I can only look away when I can no longer keep my own eyes open, when I become lost in ME… The little girl sees those invisible wounds, kisses those scars. The teen giggles in moments of self-conscious uncertainty. The woman feeds of your heat and your pleasure. The Goddess worships your God-essence.
Love which goes beyond looks and age and consequence, gender, beyond you and me, Universal, Unteathered… It is love which nourishes and which sets me free, And I will forever thank you for allowing me this space, this life, this opportunity, these experiences. I am affected deeply each time we meet. Your questions teach me. Your healing heals me. Your light illuminates tangled pathways on my own journey. Your strength empowers and awes me. I hum with the vibration of Oneness. It’s a game I enjoy playing, it’s a hobby which has become my livlihood, it’s a gift I pray to keep giving.
Emotions are are but flavors of light, energies, signs, stories… They have always been and will always be in this manifestation of life that is lived. We can hold them… or… let them run through us like water, food, the air we breathe. I must first receive the love which I give. Let it flow. Overflowing. I may love you, though overall I love THROUGH you. Create your own well. Gratitude to a Source is healthy and beautiful, dependence is not. Don’t take it personal, it’s not about you. It’s all about the me within you and the you within me.
Maybe it is personal. Sometimes. But what does that mean? What will that mean tomorrow, at noon? When flesh is but ash? The whys and the wheres and the whats and the hows… I don’t have your answers, and I hope to always be still searching for mine.
I’ve said before and will say many times again – women who have this much love do not make good partners. Feel free to ask any number of my many x’s. You can’t cage a phoenix, and I’d be killing the gold-laying magical goose. Our lives are the greatest of fairy tales ever, or never, told. Enjoy it as it is, for what it is.
I’m off tomorrow morning for Thailand! There will be internet access where I am though I do not plan to check it every day. If you are providing my name as a reference please give several days lead time. If you are contacting me for a reference please be patient, I will reply as soon as I see your message!
If I’m a good vacationer you will not see me around here much until I return – though I hope to do some updates on my website and blog, so please do check in!
I will be back in Portland 3/1 – 3/3, then properly home and available in Seattle 3/4+.
With Love,
Sola
Spicy nag champa floating on soft instrumental cries and the rhythm of soft sighs,
your own breathing heartbeat avowing wondrous life.
Candlelight sunset dancing on hungry velvet skin caressed by warm chocolate melting tongue,
a silky touch demands attention as these eyes hold you, adored.
My schedule is very limited with personal projects and upcoming travel. My available time is being reserved to delight in the company of my favorite friends!
With the exception of my NYC trip and those who have already pre-screened, I am not entertaining new guests until May.
Thank you for understanding.
Happy St. Patty’s Day!
xoxo,
Sola
Inspired by: Shakti Gawain, “Creating True Prosperity”
There are an infinite number of polarities. Dualities are essential contrasting energies, the equal and opposites. Often we identify with one over another and create imbalance in our lives, creating conflict (or “shadow”) in the other. Shakti Gawain discusses several dualities relating them specifically to our ability to be prosperous. This is not a book review in the traditional sense; it is a collection of my own thoughts rolling around relating to duality, and how it manifests in my work.
Those who have experienced my bath ceremony may recognize these concepts at play in my sessions. I have often stated my belief that misunderstanding and inability to understand, recognize and to honor our core dualistic nature (our lack of balance and harmony) is the root of all that we perceive to be atrocious, even evil, in our world.
Active and Receptive (dynamic & magnetic, masculine & feminine) - This duality is creation. It is the sun and the moon, the earth and the sea, consciousness and the cosmos, birth and death. Everything that is, is a manifestation of this energetic duality. In more practical terms, as it applies to our lives – active energy makes things happen and allows us to achieve goals, the receptive allowing creates space for the higher power of the universe to bring more than could be imagined, this is potential.
I often refer to the active/receptive to prevent confusion that can happen with the “masculine/feminine” principle, which has nothing to do with gender as we understand it in the western world. My Bath Ceremonies and Relaxation Spa create focus on the receptive in order to balance the dynamic-active of day-to-day life. Mutual Exchange Sensual Healing sessions bring the two together – exploring being able to balance active energy in receptive space. My companionship sessions are more playful, malleable to whichever direction the energy moves within our time.
Doing and Being – To me these are extensions, flavors, of the active/receptive duality. Both are vital for our sense of balance and well-being. We often lose our ability to BE when we are focused on doing; and without Being, our doing loses any meaning.
Giving and Receiving – Again, a flavor of active/receptive duality. I encourage consciousness about what is happening here. There is often confusion about which space we are in. We make offerings that are actually requests, we falsely receive (i.e., “tolerate”) in order to give. It takes a great deal of awareness, skill and sensitivity to perceive and navigate where we are, what we need, what we have to offer, and to be able to be honest and clear in our communication. Confusion here commonly creates issues with our loved ones and our relations with others.
Structure & Flow – Flow is the natural spontaneous movement of energy, structure is the principle that creates order and boundaries. Aaaah, a great balancing act indeed! My work is all about flow… yet it is the structure that allows the flow. Without banks to contain and direct the water, the river loses its momentum and power. Knowing our ‘NO’ and trusting that boundaries are recognized and honored empowers our ‘Yes!’ In balance with structure and flow we are safe to explore the unknown…
“We can only have a truly prosperous life to the extent that our world is prosperous. And our world can only be truly prosperous when we learn to honor and respect the earth we live on, and all the other beings – human or otherwise – who live here as well… Since we are all ultimately part of one consciousness, the most effective way to do that is to take responsibility for our own healing. The more conscious and balanced we become, the more we live in integrity and follow our truth, the more healing we bring to the world.
– Shakti Gawain”
