My schedule is very limited with personal projects and upcoming travel. My available time is being reserved to delight in the company of my favorite friends!
With the exception of my NYC trip and those who have already pre-screened, I am not entertaining new guests until May.
Thank you for understanding.
Happy St. Patty’s Day!
xoxo,
Sola
Inspired by: Shakti Gawain, “Creating True Prosperity”
There are an infinite number of polarities. Dualities are essential contrasting energies, the equal and opposites. Often we identify with one over another and create imbalance in our lives, creating conflict (or “shadow”) in the other. Shakti Gawain discusses several dualities relating them specifically to our ability to be prosperous. This is not a book review in the traditional sense; it is a collection of my own thoughts rolling around relating to duality, and how it manifests in my work.
Those who have experienced my bath ceremony may recognize these concepts at play in my sessions. I have often stated my belief that misunderstanding and inability to understand, recognize and to honor our core dualistic nature (our lack of balance and harmony) is the root of all that we perceive to be atrocious, even evil, in our world.
Active and Receptive (dynamic & magnetic, masculine & feminine) - This duality is creation. It is the sun and the moon, the earth and the sea, consciousness and the cosmos, birth and death. Everything that is, is a manifestation of this energetic duality. In more practical terms, as it applies to our lives – active energy makes things happen and allows us to achieve goals, the receptive allowing creates space for the higher power of the universe to bring more than could be imagined, this is potential.
I often refer to the active/receptive to prevent confusion that can happen with the “masculine/feminine” principle, which has nothing to do with gender as we understand it in the western world. My Bath Ceremonies and Relaxation Spa create focus on the receptive in order to balance the dynamic-active of day-to-day life. Mutual Exchange Sensual Healing sessions bring the two together – exploring being able to balance active energy in receptive space. My companionship sessions are more playful, malleable to whichever direction the energy moves within our time.
Doing and Being – To me these are extensions, flavors, of the active/receptive duality. Both are vital for our sense of balance and well-being. We often lose our ability to BE when we are focused on doing; and without Being, our doing loses any meaning.
Giving and Receiving – Again, a flavor of active/receptive duality. I encourage consciousness about what is happening here. There is often confusion about which space we are in. We make offerings that are actually requests, we falsely receive (i.e., “tolerate”) in order to give. It takes a great deal of awareness, skill and sensitivity to perceive and navigate where we are, what we need, what we have to offer, and to be able to be honest and clear in our communication. Confusion here commonly creates issues with our loved ones and our relations with others.
Structure & Flow – Flow is the natural spontaneous movement of energy, structure is the principle that creates order and boundaries. Aaaah, a great balancing act indeed! My work is all about flow… yet it is the structure that allows the flow. Without banks to contain and direct the water, the river loses its momentum and power. Knowing our ‘NO’ and trusting that boundaries are recognized and honored empowers our ‘Yes!’ In balance with structure and flow we are safe to explore the unknown…
“We can only have a truly prosperous life to the extent that our world is prosperous. And our world can only be truly prosperous when we learn to honor and respect the earth we live on, and all the other beings – human or otherwise – who live here as well… Since we are all ultimately part of one consciousness, the most effective way to do that is to take responsibility for our own healing. The more conscious and balanced we become, the more we live in integrity and follow our truth, the more healing we bring to the world.
– Shakti Gawain”
I’ve been accused of playing semantics before, it’s not that I try to be difficult – it’s that words create and distort ideas and the reality of what we are actually saying. I believe in the power of well crafted and precise language. Words are very powerful yet they only say what is heard. I read something today that stopped me in my tracks…
The “unconscious” – that part of our mind that’s tuned into the cosmos – is much more conscious than our so-called conscious, ego dominated mind; and is just as organized, but in a different way… (Regarding) discovering conscious beliefs that stand in the way of creating a new reality and replacing them with conscious new ones. If those beliefs are invisible to us, it’s because we take them for granted as assumptions underlying our reality – not because they are buried somewhere in the unconscious mind.
- Nancy Ashley, Re: Seth “Create Your Own Reality”
I tend to focus on the unconscious beliefs/reality as our patterned system. Is it simply a matter of my interpretation of the words (conscious or unconscious) or do I need to delve back into my understanding of consciousness and the nature of reality to sort it all back out? I’ll never get my projects done if I keep tripping over things like this lol!
Some people are intimidated by sex toys believing that they imply a person is “not enough” for me. I’ve even been asked, “Do you need that?” as if there were some deficiency in my own sexual response which required compensation with toys. Some of my friends have seen me create a human-Sybian with my Pocket Rocket, some have been told in detail why I enjoy pairing that toy with my purple spiraled dildo, some have even met my mythically powerful Sybian. I don’t need toys, I love them! As adults, what requirement is there to forgo our childhood desire to play? What is wrong with accessories that increase the intensity and variety of sensation available? What is wrong with the more pleasure? If you have never appreciated toys and yet find “none” or “nothing” the answers… please, consider exploring the world of “adult novelties”!
Last week I received a new toy box full of treasures (insert happy dance here!) While I’m not confident in my technique using a strap-on, I’m hoping that a friend with good humor and experience will help me to change that soon. My selection of new appendages ranges from finger sized to OMG(!) The Hitachi Magic Wand is a toy that I’ve avoided for years because of it’s cumbersome size and shape. Recent experience has redeemed it’s design flaws. The Hitachi is a powerful orgasm generator with a high frequency motor that can quickly lead me to a multi-orgasmic state. (So, of course I had to get one LOL!) I’m also very excited about the We-Vibe, a “C” shaped vibrator designed to allow hands-free clitoral and g-spot vibration during intercourse. Ooooh! It’s like I’m five years old on Christmas morning! Um… but much sexier!
The variety of toys can be overwhelming. The thousands of options tend to fall within or across several functional categories: insertion (dildos, butt plugs, beads, g-spot and prostate stimulators), vibration (vibrators, f*cking machines, bullets and eggs), constriction (cock rings, restraints, clamps), and a variety of devices designed simply to play with sensation (feathers, floggers, pinwheels, electrical stimulators, etc.) I love to educate and considered writing an informational piece about the selection, use and care of toys. For now, I’ve decided not to try to reinvent the wheel. There is a tremendous amount of information found in the blogs and the ads at my favorite friendly adult store, Babeland. Just click on the banner below to visit their site!
To begin, my gratitude goes out to the amazing group of women that I spent the past weekend with. Tantrikas, domina, witch, naturopath… gathered together to talk about writing. While I love the work that is done through Hugo House , I have never been so encouraged to reach deeply into my core to determine what ideas are most important to me, and directed to apply them to a specific subject. Never have I gone to a writing oriented event and been so inspired by the experiences and stories, the individuals present, the sense of community, the magnificent scale of dreams spoken… I thank these women, I honor them, I hope to see them again soon.
I seem to always have more projects than time. That, or I’m amazingly adept at procrastinating the “to do” piece of completing projects lol! My writing was set aside to focus on creating outlines for topic-focused learning sessions, with that project pushed aside to envision a “Visioning and Manifesting” series that I feel is deeply needed in this anxious time of transition, with that set aside to attend my pilates and yoga classes, and some of that skipped while trying to catch up on a mountainous backlog of reading… I’ve also some on-going projects to modify this site as well as two others, to coordinate social events in both Seattle and Portland, to maintain my beautiful Sanctuary, to coax my calendar into allowing more personal interests, and to set up a creative cove where I can fully and comfortably concentrate on all of this… Hopefully soon it will all come together and I’ll have more exciting news for you.
Listen to “Time” by clicking the image below.
I just have to say… I do love me some Pink Floyd, can you tell?
(For those who say I’ve “sold out” to DSOTM, know this album was in the final stages of recording at the time I was conceived and released six months before my birth. Ha!)
